POFFF in a Bottle


Here at the POFFF we believe. We believe in ourselves to feel better than we ever imagined possible. So come here to play and discover wonder and delight. Find your fascinated, encouraged and feeling-very-fine fantastic self now! Open Sesame. I Ziggy Zoomba. Zippideedooda, Zippideeay!

Bullied? Build a team

There are different ways to build a team to help you with bullies.

  1. Use the No Bystanders team in the previous post – that’s your friends at school.
  2. Build a team of mentors of all ages: a supportive older brother or sister, a grandparent, a parent, a librarian, a teacher who you like, a counselor, a pastor or minister. They may help you find a local group that prevents bullying. They may have tips and ideas to help you as well.
  3. For additional support, try using a group of spiritual helpers like angels that you talk to and pray to. Learn about some of the archangels who are protectors. You always need to ask them for their help. Make a daily practice of asking  your guardian angel to help you, too. Always ask a friend who is old enough to help you create a people team, too. You need both kinds.
  4. A famous author named Napoleon Hill suggested building teams for making money and creating mastermind groups to build a good life. You can create a real live team for supporting you with bullying as suggested above, and you can also collect names of famous people dead or alive who you think would know the best ways to avoid getting bullied or to stop getting bullied.  Learn more about the people you choose.                                    Once a day, hold conversations with those famous people by imagining them in your mind. Ask them questions silently or out loud and wait and listen to hear what comes back to you. Sometimes you’ll get an idea from this and maybe find a book in the library or an article online to help. Sometimes you may suddenly think of someone you know who could help you as soon as you talk to them! It may take some practice and some getting used to as most of us never do this kind of experiment.


Being Bullied? No Bystanders!

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You are at lunch. A kid comes up and makes you his target. YOU tell him (or her) to leave. He won’t. What do you do?

Before lunch, you talk to all your lunch buddies. They are to back you up and anyone else who gets targeted at your lunch table. You are a team.

Here’s what to do.. When you tell the bully to leave, if the bully doesn’t leave, one of your lunch mates says, “She  (or he) told you to leave.”

No giggling. No bystanders. You and your lunch mates are a team. They ask the bully to leave too. They are there for you. You all demand he or she leave enough, either the bully will go, or an adult will notice and help.

Now go on – with your lunch and your friendships. Teams are powerful…


This is a continuing series. Next time, what if you’re bullied and only have one friend or no friends with you?

Here’s a link that can help: 

Being Bullied? Try slogans

POFFF and Artist, Author Melanie A. Stinson -with a little help from her friends-  will be posting here on and off to help YOU up your pizzazz. Why? Because no one should be bullied.

Kheris Rogers found a way to go in to her SOUL with her sister’s help. She developed a slogan, Flexin in my Complexion.

You can do this too. For instance, Mighty Shiner at the POFFF!

Some times we feel afraid to tell someone we’re being pushed, bullied or hurt in some way. Put on your super hero cape for a while and eve if you’re shakin’ all over tell someone who you know loves you, a parent, grandparent, or a favorite teacher, counselor or adult friend.

If Flexin’ in your Complexion doesn’t suit you, what does? We are all super in some way. Find your slogan in that. Need help, ask supportive family and friends.

Some times we’re sad though and it’s hard to find that part of us. That’s okay. You can get help with that too. I often go for help. I have counselor, therapist and other healing practitioner people who help me. You can too. Soon the POFFF will have some link to those kinds of help.

You also might want to learn about Kheris. She is on instagram and facebook  too. Here’s her website flexininmycomplexion

Middle Princesses, Hairy Fairies?

I sketched these guys one day. They may get their own book sometime.


When I made pictures for my book, The Middle Princess, I let you, dear readers, create in your minds what you think gnat-giraffes, I-ings and hairy fairies would look like. It’s more fun that way.

If you care to share any pictures you make or take (if you find an I-ing under the bed), I would love to post the best pictures. They need to be virus-free and jpg files.

You can purchase the book here. SUGGESTION: only purchase the kindle book because I have no idea why Amazon would charge $40 for the print version. It should be no more than $12.00 as it is a picture book with not too many pages. 🙂

The POFFF Master – Melanie

P.S. The Middle Princess is for ages 6-10 and can be read to anyone.

Go on an Adventure today

You can go on an adventure anywhere – to your backyard, along a wood fence, in school, or in an office building. Take along a sketchpad and journal. Doodle, jot down ideas. Oh – maybe you’ll take a camera and take some pictures!

On some adventures, it’s fun to find stones. According to some native peoples, stones you find can tell you stories. You gaze at them and see what pictures you see there. What story does each picture tell and do they tell one all together? What does each picture remind you of in your life – or about you today?

Maybe you like a texture on one part of a stone. Does that texture show you a picture or two? Do any ideas come to you from the feeling you get from holding the stone? Is that part of your story time today?

Here’s a favorite stone I found in an adventure in a gem and crystal festival I attended. It could be the stone of where I live in the Great Black Swamp. This stone speaks to us in different ways.

Swamp Bog Jasper

What might I find in a swamp today? What creatures lived in prehistoric swamps? I’ll bet there were some kind of dragonflies.

dragonfly fossil